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Looking Back at 2010

I think most everyone has already done their 2010 list-about-whatever by now. I thought about doing a reading list, or a look back at the year like I did last year, but I have something else in mind.

I want to share with you some of the gems I found in 2010, some of the best books I read, the best moments, the best blog posts (not mine!), etc. Let’s get started, shall we?

Favorite New Blogger

Stand and Deliver – a blog about breastfeeding and home birth that is amazing. Rixa continues to inspire me on a daily basis, and there are aspects of her labor and deliveries that I’ll be trying to emulate.

Seth’s Blog – I’m sure I was subscribed to Seth Godin before 2010, but I really started focusing on him in 2010. He talks the way I think, and has inspired me in many ways. However, I admit I’m leary of his publishing venture and am not sure we quite agree on the state of the publishing industry. I understand his points, but don’t think opening up publishing to anyone who can put words to paper and write a check is a wise thing to do.

Favorite Blog Post

The world’s worst boss. – As I read this post, I was nodding my head, berating myself for being a terrible boss. But then I realized that that’s not the point. The point of the post is about managing yourself, and I did that AWESOMELY in 2010. It’s hard, and sometimes I resented other people with an easier lifestyle, but I learned that I’m a kick ass boss is most aspects.

Loyalty – I’ve thought about this post more than I’ve thought about anything in a long time. As someone who has a side business and is soon-to-be self-employed, this is my singular goal every time I sit down at the computer.

The Recruiter – This post by my friend Melissa cracked me up. I think about it often and it’s already taken a leap into the all-time favorite posts category.

My ‘like’ button is a dirty racist. – What I love about Raych is that she can be incredibly deep but incredibly funny all at the same time. I will take this on as my own goal as soon as I can read more than a book a month.

Personal Accomplishments

WE PAID OFF OUR CREDIT CARD DEBT. Dude, that was the albatross around my neck that I never thought I’d lose. When Dave and I first got married and we combined our finances, I couldn’t believe the amount of debt we’d wracked up as individuals. I’m not talking $5,000 or even $10,000. It was a lot more than that. But it’s gone. We’ve paid it off. In two years. We did something similar to the snowball method, but what really helped keep us on track is the spreadsheet I used to track our debt. I would enter the balances every month in a spreadsheet, and I had a formula that calculated what percentage of our debt we’d paid off. It was incredibly motivating and kept us focused on our goals.

Before we paid off our debt but when I could finally see the light at the end of the tunnel, we decided to try to get pregnant. We didn’t consider getting pregnant before that because I want to stay home with my kids, at least until they’re in school. With the debt we were carrying, that would have been impossible. So with a little trepidation, I got off the pill. I worried that I wouldn’t be able to get pregnant because I’d never been pregnant before and Dave doesn’t have any mini-me’s running around. I wanted to have children so badly that I told myself repeatedly that if we couldn’t have kids, then that was okay. If we had kids, we’d go down one road, if we couldn’t have kids, we’d go down another road, neither of which is better than the other. I imagined that if we didn’t have kids, we’d get to travel more, we’d be able to buy a bigger house sooner, we’d have more money to do the various hobbies we have. I knew I’d be disappointed if I couldn’t get pregnant, but I also knew that I didn’t want to be one of those women who’s perpetually unhappy because she can’t make a baby. I didn’t want to be that woman who can’t go to a baby shower, who can’t be happy for her friends as they get pregnant and start their own families.

So I prepped myself with some serious talking to. I also prepped Dave by telling him if we couldn’t get pregnant, that I wanted to get more animals. My dogs are my kids, and if I had my druthers, I’d take in all the stray and abandonded and abused animals I could find.

I was excited for either direction our life took: a life with kids or a life without kids. Either way I would be fulfilled and on a path that brought me contentment.

I’ll never forget the night when, at 9pm, I decided to take a second pregnancy test, on the off chance that the squinter I’d seen earlier that day was actually a positive pregnancy test. Nor will I forget the first phone call I made to a friend to tell her I was pregnant (hi, Becky!).

I got a promotion at work. Not only did I get a promotion, but my bosses couldn’t be happier with my work. They took a leap of faith by giving me this higher position, and I’ve worked my tail off so they wouldn’t be disappointed. I’m so happy they’re thrilled with my work.

Favorite Books

  • The Unnamed by Joshua Ferris
  • The Passage by Justin Cronin
  • Based Upon Availability by Alix Strauss
  • Faithful Place by Tana French
  • Sounds Like Crazy by Shana Mahaffrey

Favorite Moments

  • Telling Dave’s mom I was pregnant.
  • The whole day at the Book Blogger Convention.
  • Reconnecting with two old friends, Christie and Kati.
  • Hearing the baby’s heartbeat for the first time.

I won’t say that 2011 has big shoes to fill, but 2010 wasn’t too shabby.


19 Responses to “Looking Back at 2010”

  1. Monica Walters

    Sounds like you had a banner year….I have to say, I just finished The Passage and was obsessed with it from start to finish. Just the right amount of creepy and totally plausible…which is really scary. Much different from Team Edward…I can’t wait for the next one…there must be a next one right? There were way too many loose ends. What happened to Subject Zero? He’s out there!


  2. Sandy

    That is one kick-ass year!!! We’ve been working on our debt too and it is a great feeling to blast that dark cloud out of your sky. Everything worked for you in 2010, and I would imagine 2011 is going to be just as great (just with a few less hours of sleep!)


  3. Beth F ()

    What an awesome year. Can’t wait to hear your tales of a self-employed, working mom who reads and blogs and knits and does a million great things.


  4. Helen ()

    Amazing year. Those pregnancy moments are wonderful aren’t they?! I had such an easy road with pregnancy and delivery, that is something I would wish for every woman who wants it. And success at work and with debt? I hope 2011 lives up to the standards set by 2010


  5. bermudaonion (Kathy) ()

    Wow, you had a fabulous year! I’m sure 2011 will be even better!


  6. zibilee ()

    You have had an incredible year! I think it’s so awesome that you paid off all your debt, and we are in the process of doing that right now. It is hard, but I know it will be rewarding when we don’t have to shell out that money every month. I also think you have a really healthy attitude about getting pregnant, and I am glad that it worked out for you. And I wanted to mention that a bunch of your favorite books from this year were favorites of mine too! I only listed 5 on my formal list, but others were considered, and Based Upon Availability really stood out for me.


  7. Meredith

    What a great year for you!

    We read many of the same books in 2010–and I think we often have the same tastes. The Unnamed was the first whole book I think I read in 2011. I was really excited about it, but ended up HATING it. Isn’t that weird how that happens sometimes?


  8. Jenny ()

    Wow, what a fantastic year!!!!


  9. Staci

    You are so right that 2010 wasn’t too shabby! Congrats on the debt…we all need to do that because it holds so many of us down for sure!!

    I can’t wait til’ the baby is here!!


  10. Trish ()

    I’m thinking that 2011 will be a year you’ll never forget, huh?

    I use spreadsheets to help keep our finances in order. I’m kind of anal about carrying debt (though we have school loans I don’t count them for some reason), but seeing it all on paper helps a lot!


  11. Melissa ()

    Thanks for the shoutout Trish! That’s so funny you think about that post. I wish I had written something more inspiring! lol. I know 2011 is going to be an amazing year for you. Sounds like the direction your life took is a good one and I wish nothing but wonderful things for you and your family. And I can’t believe you paid off your credit card debt. I need that method. I also can’t wait to meet the little hey baby someday (I hope the kid is not 15 by that time)


  12. Amused ()

    What a wonderful 2010 you had and such a sweet post to share with all of us! Here’s to a fab 2011 and a beautiful baby boy on the way!


  13. Michelle

    You’ve had a fantastic year! Here’s to an even better 2011 for you and your growing family.


  14. Uniflame ()

    Hello! I came across this blog through bloggiesta, learning about gravatars & favicons.

    But I stumbled across this note you have on your site:
    I’m pretty sure you’re new to my blog, so I’d like to encourage you to subscribe to my RSS feed. I generally talk about books, authors, blogging, and life. Feel free to poke around; I think you’ll really enjoy it! Thanks for visiting!

    Can you explain to me, how to add this? I use blogspot 🙂 Have a nice day! And hope to see you this bloggiesta 🙂


  15. Kristina ()

    Congrats on getting your debt paid off!!! I told my husband about your snowball method and I think we’re gonna try it!! Thanks =)


  16. Esme

    What a beautiful post. I can only imagine the excitement of telling your husband you are pregnant. I cannot join you on that by the whole NY Book experience was awesome.

    Kudos to paying off your credit card debt. Remember pay yourself before you pay your creditors.


  17. Amanda ()

    I’m glad you had such a great year Trish! I hope my 2011 can be just as good, especially since my 2010 was…um…total crap, sadly…


  18. Kathleen

    Sounds like you had an AWESOME 2010. I’m going to go out on a limb and say I think 2011 is going to be even better!


  19. Stacybuckeye ()

    You had a great year! I remember all of the personal ‘prepping’ I did before trying to get pregnant. Jason and I were both agreed that life would be great either way, just different. And now that we have the little one and he’s 3 1/2 months I finally feel myself coming out of the baby cocoon. There’s a life going on out there that you will not care about for a few months 🙂


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