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A Nightmare About My Ex

Hi! Thanks for stopping by. 🙂 If you don’t mind, I’d like to tell you about the nightmare I had last night. It won’t take long, I promise.

As many of you know, I’m getting married in June. However, that doesn’t seem to stop my imagination from dreaming about my one-and-only ex-boyfriend (my fiance is only the second boyfriend I’ve ever had (I’m 29)), R. I think it’s because I feel guilty about how we broke up: I broke up with him and didn’t give him much of a chance to change, though my thought at the time was what he really needed was time to grow up (he was only 23 or so). So every once in a while he appears in my dreams in some way, and last night he did just that.

Part of the honeymoon that my fiance and I are planning is spending a few days in Yosemite. So in my dream, I had broken up with my fiance, gotten back together with R, and R and I were going to Yosemite for a couple of days. A few other people who we knew were there too, but I think that was just incidental.

As we were walking towards the *restaurant* (for lack of a better word), I realized that he only came up to my waist. I could pet him like a dog, he was that short. In real life, R was about 1/2 inch taller than me. But in my dream, he was so short that I remember thinking, I don’t know if this is going to work.

I remember being very distressed that I would have to break his heart yet again over something so petty, but when someone is that short, it’s hard to look at them like they can protect you.

Obviously my dream was quite exaggerated, but I wondered if any of you out there in the blog world had dated/married someone shorter than you? Or, if you’re of the male persuasion, have you dated/married someone taller than you?

Thanks for listening! This is very theapeutic for me.

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5 Responses to “A Nightmare About My Ex”

  1. blkirish

    Greetings …

    At 5’6 I’ve dated a lot of taller women. Granted I’m not a “small” guy, but height isn’t one of my strengths. As far as having a woman feel protected; I believe that that has a lot to do with attitude.

    Not to confuse a Napolean complex with confidence. I’ve always been athletic and into sports all of my 36 years. I have a very strong sense of my own masculinity and I’d like to think that my understanding and application of traditional male – female roles are appropriate.

    I assert those beliefs in my relationships and and it’s been a null issue of my ability to “take care” of my partner. There have been some awkward moments, if only in “my” mind, but very few.

    My ex-wife is 4 inches taller than I am, and my current girlfriend is about an inch taller. There haven’t been any complaints and they appear to satisfied and feel protected.

    Don’t forget to add the additional 3 – 6 inches when heels are worn.

    ~ blkirish


  2. trish

    That’s a good comment, blkirish. It’s all about attitude, right? If you think it will be a problem, then it probably will. If you don’t think it’s a problem, it probably won’t be.

    And just to clarify, I obviously didn’t think my ex couldn’t take care of me or protect me because of his height; the dream was an exaggeration, and in real life he did just fine. Perhaps in my dream his height was really his maturity level???

    💡 I think I just had an AHA moment! See how therapeutic this is?


  3. lisamm

    Only once did I date a guy who was shorter (and just by half an inch). I didn’t have an issue with it, but we broke up in part because he had a real problem with me wearing heels when we went out. His lack of confidence annoyed the heck out of me. I went on to marry my husband, who is 6’6″ and the only man who has ever made me feel petite at 5’10”!


  4. Eva

    I’m late to the party, but I just must say the fact that your fiancee is only your second boyfriend (and you’re 29) makes me feel much calmer about my own life. 🙂 I’ve only had one boyfriend (and not until college), and I’m happy being single right now. But some people like to make me feel like I’m going to end up a spinster (I’m 21)! hmph

    As far as your question, I’m 5’3″, so I can’t imagine dating someone shorter than me. I have, however, hung out/gone on brief dates with guys much taller than me, and I’ve noticed that I’m fine until the guy is 6’3″. Then I feel like I’m back in kindergarten!


  5. trish

    And I didn’t start dating my first boyfriend until I was 23!

    Haha!! A complete foot taller than you, Eva! I think that would make me feel like a kindergartener, too. 🙂


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