A long time ago, when I was planning my wedding, I was reading Weddingbee a lot and there was a post where the person who runs Weddingbee said she has “a completely unfounded theory that most bloggers are introverts.” So I’m here to find out! Are most bloggers introverts or extroverts?
You can see what Wikipedia says about extroverts and introverts, but here’s the definition of extroverts and introverts from about.com:
Extrovert: An extrovert is a person who is energized by being around other people. Extroverts tend to “fade” when alone and can easily become bored without other people around. When given the chance, an extrovert will talk with someone else rather than sit alone and think. In fact, extroverts tend to think as they speak, unlike introverts who are far more likely to think before they speak. Extroverts often think better when they are talking. Concepts just don’t s eem real to them unless they can talk about them; reflecting on them isn’t enough. Extroverts enjoy social situations and even seek them out since they enjoy being around people.
Introvert: Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. An introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people. Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to “recharge.”
I’ll tell you about myself.
I’m mostly an introvert. Given the chance to hang out with other people or stay at home, I’d rather stay at home. It’s not that I don’t enjoy being around other people, I just prefer my hobbies, such as reading, knitting, or watching the occasional show on TV. Being around people for any length of time definitely drains me, and I eventually need to be alone to recharge.
If I do hang out with other people, I much prefer a smaller group. I have no comprehension of going to a party where the music is so loud you can’t have a conversation. How can you possibly connect with someone else? You can’t. It’s those situations that I avoid the most. Hanging out with one or two friends is much more up my alley.
Lest you think I’m socially inept, people are often amazed at how easy it is for me to socialize and make small talk with people I’ve only just met. I’ve been told by many people, “It’s so easy for you!” and if they only knew how much I have to push myself to be social, they’d never make that statement.
I’m an introvert who tries to be an extrovert.
But I love blogging. I love responding to comments. What is so different? Why do I feel so comfortable on the Internet as opposed to real life? I think what’s different is that 1) I’m mostly talking to people who have similar interests. I would talk about books and blogs ALL THE TIME with my real life friends if they’d let me. 2) I can turn it off, so to speak, whenever I want. I can hang out for 10 minutes or two hours, but as soon as I’m done, I’m done. There’s no waiting to go home, there’s no awkward goodbyes (I hate saying goodbye), there’s none of that. I just…slip away. And come back when I’m ready. I think the key, though, is that in cyberspace, I’m always hanging out with people who obsess over the same things I obsess over. I can talk about books and blogs all the time with you people!
So that’s what I’ve come up with. And I think that *most* people who blog are introverts. Blogging allows us to interact with others on our own terms.
Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
Edited to add: Melanie from lit*chick (she’s always had one of my favorite titles for a blog) pointed us to this article entitled Caring for Your Introvert. WOW. It’s like this guy was reading my mind. “Hell is other people at breakfast.” That sums up my sentiments exactly.