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Do you use curse words?

I was raised very religious, though my parents weren’t religious at all (loooong story), and my dad was very adamant in the language we used at home. Curse words were in no way, shape, or form allowed out of our mouths. I don’t know what my dad would have done had I used a curse word, but the hint of punishment was enough for my rule-following self.

I’m not just talking about the f-word or the b-word or the sh-word. We WERE NOT ALLOWED to say fart. “I farted” was NOT FUNNY. At least not to my parents. If we farted, we had to say, “Excuse me. I committed a faux pas.”

To this day, I still think farting is funny.

When I was religious, it came as a shock to me that some people thought “bastard” was a bad word. Why is bastard such a bad word? To me, it means a jerk, and Dictionary.com shows the slang meaning as:

Slang. a) a vicious, despicable, or thoroughly disliked person: Some bastard slashed the tires on my car.
b) a person, esp. a man: The poor bastard broke his leg.

Yet I was shushed and reprimanded by many a person when “bastard” slipped through my lips. Why would calling someone a bastard be worse than calling them a jerk?

I really really try not to curse. I don’t think it’s appropriate in most instances, and certainly not in mixed company. But I don’t mind if other people do it, and I have this friend who CURSES LIKE A SAILOR and it cracks me up, because she can switch off the bad language like a light switch. She can be charming and deferential, or she can be crass. Her crass-ness is priceless, though.

BUT MY KIDS! What will I teach my kids?! I know parents who won’t let their kids use the words dumb or stupid, but how do I censor MYSELF? How do you figure out which words your three-year-old canΒ or can’t say? What words do you teach your child to use when they’re angry? Is *fart* such a bad word? What about *toot*? What about *stupid*? Aren’t there times that using the word stupid is appropriate? Why do we not teach our children that there are things/people/behavior that are stupid? Or do we not want our children to use words that seem too adult for their little mouths?

HOW DO YOU FIGURE THIS OUT?

After writing this, I found a post where many parents (I assume) weighed in on the word stupid. I don’t think that stupid is a bad word…it’s all in the way your kid uses it, right? Scribbit posted her opinion on children using the word stupid, and she voices what I believed in my gut but couldn’t quite get it to sound right when I wrote it down. Since I don’t have kids (and I’m not pregnant!), I’m not saying how I would raise my own kids, only that I’m thinking about it now and wondering how other people handle this.

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52 Responses to “I Should Have My Mouth Washed Out With Soap”

  1. Renay

    They’re just words. Very possibly, if people wouldn’t make such a big deal over them, kids (like the one I used to be) wouldn’t remember sitting alone on hot summer afternoons tasting the words in their mouths, feeling illicit and somewhat shamed but thrilled, too, by how powerful using the words made them feel–adult, in the most dangerous way possible, all because they were words we COULD NOT use and we would get in SO MUCH TROUBLE.

    Also, re: stupid. Under the circumstances I would use it as a learning experience for preciseness of language because so often I see “stupid” being used when what writers or people mean to say is “ignorant”. Stupid means “lacking or marked by lack of intellectual acuity”, ignorant means “uneducated in general; lacking knowledge or sophistication”. Therefore, most people mean ignorant, not stupid because being ignorant of something is not knowing something or choosing not to know it. I would relate stupid to the same place as retard. In this I’m pretty liberal; I would explain to my kids (and have explained to my god brother) that I don’t appreciate the use of words in MY spaces that devalue those with learning disabilities (my home, my car, etc) but he can use them whenever he wants in his spaces. I found that explaining the benefits of preciseness of language to him and why some people find the word offensive taught him way more than outright banning it from his vocabulary. He’s his own person and I find banning language troubling because it so easily becomes brainwashing in the hands of adults who want to create mirrors of themselves instead of kids who develop good critical thinking skills.

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  2. claire

    I can relate. My kids believe stupid is a bad word. And when we purchased Jeff Kinney’s Diary of a Wimpy Kid series (which they begged to have), the first few pages the see the word stupid and go: “Mom, this book has a bad word!” I explained to them how stupid CAN BE a bad word, and how sometimes it is not. Eventually they will hear about those words from schoolmates and others, so it’s best to just explain why it can be bad to use, in relation to context.

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  3. I Heart Monster

    I read a study a few years back that said that children are becoming more violent because their exposure to swear words is higher. Their intellectual outlet for frustration is being used in everyday language and is therefore unable to satisfy that mental need to lash out. I dunno if I buy that 100%, but I think it does make some sense.

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    trish Reply:

    Wow, that’s really interesting. That’ll give me something to think about between now and…whenever I get pregnant. πŸ˜‰

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  4. Literary Feline

    My dad cursed like the enlisted Marine he was when I was growing up. Every other word was the “f” word (and I don’t mean fart). Somehow, I still knew I wasn’t allowed to use that kind of language and so I didn’t. I really don’t think my dad realized his language was so bad, honestly.

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  5. I Heart Monster

    Stupid is not a nice word, but I don’t think it’s a bad word. I think that it’s important for kids to know the difference between words that are vulgar and words that are hurtful…

    My niece always says to me, “Stupid is not a nice word!” I say “I wasn’t trying to be nice.” I hope she gets the difference, but she’s only 3. I don’t have any kids yet either, so I’m obviously not an expert…

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  6. bybee

    I told my son that I could tolerate any words out of his mouth except the n-word.

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    trish Reply:

    I AGREE! Racial slurs will not be tolerated. Those words are repulsive.

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  7. I Heart Monster

    I’d have to agree with you bybee – racial slurs are not tolerable from anyone under any circumstance if you ask me.

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  8. Jackie (Farm Lane Books)

    Great question! I am having to go through this thought process at the moment, as my three-year-old is coming home with new words from nursery.

    I never swear, and so all those words won’t be tolerated. But there are lots of other ones where the context is very important. I don’t have a problem with my little boy saying “fart” or “willy” or “stupid”, but if he starts shouting them in the supermarket it gets a bit embarrasing! So it is not only deciding which words can and can’t be said, but also deciding where each one can be!

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    trish Reply:

    ACK! I totally forgot how kids can say things at the most inopportune times.

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  9. Meghan

    Obviously, I don’t have kids, and I don’t plan on having them for a good few years yet (despite the alarming frequency with which high school friends are reporting pregnancies these days – yikes!) but this is an issue I’ve thought about. We were never allowed to swear when growing up, either, even though my dad did; it was my mom’s rule. When I was younger, I often felt that my parents forbid me to do a lot of things without really explaining why, and swearing was one of them. Being a little rebel, my natural inclination was to swear everywhere but in their presence, and eventually they heard me and I got in trouble, but I still didn’t get it.

    As an adult, I’ve pretty much found that I find it unnecessary to swear in most situations and I hardly do. (I have to admit to a peculiar fondness for “bastard”, though, but usually only to play on its double meaning, both jerk and illegitimate child) My fiance and I have decided, should children show up earlier than we’d like, that we’d do our best to tell them why things are wrong or not nice to other people, but not forbid them to do anything that isn’t going to harm them or others, since that never worked with me. I don’t really understand why “stupid” is so wrong. I agree 100% that outright forbidding the word wouldn’t work. Sometimes things are stupid. I would probably explain why we shouldn’t call other children stupid, but that the word can be appropriate. I do have to agree with the person who mentioned the n-word, though, as I would never tolerate a racial slur like that. That word is never necessary.

    Sorry. That was a long comment. I’ve just spent a little too much time thinking about these things! LOL.

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    trish Reply:

    Even as an adult I do a lot better when I’m told *why* I can’t do something; I don’t see how children would be all that different! Thanks for reminding me that I’ve got a lot of explaining in my future! πŸ™‚

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  10. Kathy

    Teaching your kids can be difficult, because the one time they hear something you don’t want them to say, they’ll latch onto it and use it at every opportunity. I know this from experience. I tried just about every punishment known to man, but nothing worked except flat out ignoring it. When he didn’t get a reaction, the word lost it’s power.

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    trish Reply:

    Hehehe…I’m a big fan of ignoring bad behavior and praising good behavior, and often times more good behavior results from that.

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  11. Tricia

    I don’t curse and my kids are taught the same. It’s not really a problem for them yet (the oldest is a 3rd grader) because they are still at the stage where they mimic what they hear at home and friends don’t have that big of an outside influence. However, the first time I heard my 2 year old mimic words like jerk, idiot, stupid, etc. I CRINGED. It sounds terrible coming from those sweet tiny faces. I realized if it doesn’t sound right coming from them, I probably shouldn’t be saying them either.

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  12. nikki

    I was raised in a fairly relaxed household when it comes to cursing. Not when we were younger, but once we got to the teen years, it wasn’t a big deal to let out a ‘what the hell’ or an ‘I don’t give a damn,’ or even a “shit!” if something really bad happened. My mom did kick my great uncle out of the house one Christmas afternoon for his flagrant use of the N-word though. I curse like a sailor now. BUT I have a 2 1/2 year old and I truly have no problem turning off the potty mouth in front of him. In fact, I probably curse more than ever when he’s not around, just to get it out of my system. It just seems natural to not curse in front of a kid that young.

    I love language, therefore I love salty language. It’s so colorful and I have such appreciation for the fact that the f-word can be used in so many different ways. I actually think it shows how advanced our communication skills can be.

    Also. Farts are funny to my 2 1/2 year old. And to 31 year old me. And to my 33 year old husband. And to my 60+ year old parents. Though I use the word fart and toot pretty much interchangably. My son says fart so cute though. Fawt.

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  13. Suey

    We aren’t too afraid of the word studpid at our house, though, in thinking about it, we use it to describe things or situations, and never people. At least that’s the idea.

    A word (words) we DON’T use very much, and if we forget and do, it sounds like a bad word, is Shut Up. I don’t know why, but I think these are some of the meanest words out there, and we just don’t say them to people. Somehow, my kids have learned this to the point that, like I said, if anyone does say them, we all gasp!

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  14. Rebecca @ The Book Lady's Blog

    My parents, who are this interesting combination of politically liberal but traditionally genteel, didn’t allow my sister and me to say “fart” because they thought it sounded inappropriate. My dad, however, laughed every time my little sister farted, and like you, she still finds farting absolutely hilarious. I’m convinced she’s going to rip one during her wedding ceremony next April and bust up laughing instead of dying from embarrassment.

    Anyway, we also weren’t allowed to say “shut up.” We said, “please be quiet” when we could control ourselves, but my parents loosened up on the language thing when we were teenagers, which I think was really smart. They wanted us to feel like we could express ourselves however we needed to within the four walls of our home. And it worked. We knew it wasn’t a good idea to “drop the f bomb” at school or at a friend’s house, but if we were really frustrated, we could let it out that way.

    I don’t have kids, either, but I imagine that if I ever do, I’ll want to teach them about the importance of knowing when and where to use certain language. Can you say the F word with friends? Yes. Can you say it at work? No. Should you use cursing as an excuse or a way to avoid having to express your feelings more precisely? No. But sometimes, really, nothing quite gets it across like a good “Mother F-er.”

    My 10-year-old nephew is extremely precocious and picked up curse words within the last few years. His parents have taught him that he can use them at home (though he can’t direct them at his family members, so “F you” is not allowed) but not at school, with friends, or in front of his grandparents (my in-laws…oh lord how they would die if they heard that come out of his mouth). I think it’s an interesting tactic and a good balance. He’s a well-adjusted kid, and because the words haven’t been made totally taboo, they’re not quite as enticing.

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    trish Reply:

    LOL. I think I’d like your sister. πŸ˜€

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  15. Michelle at Scribbit

    One of the things they taught me in my English training back in college was that it really doesn’t matter what curse words we use the language is slippery and will shift around as our culture does. I’m not sure why this bothers me but it does πŸ™‚ It shouldn’t come as a surprise when my kids tell me that there’s a push at their school to have the word “retard” (actually referred to as the “r” word so it was tricky to discover what word they meant) outlawed at school. But it does. While I’d tell my kids not to call someone that it irks me to hear them go after it nonetheless.

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    trish Reply:

    I use the word “lame” a lot, and actually the use of “retard” doesn’t bother me as much as the use of “faggot”. That bothers me as much as the “n” word.

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  16. Alyce

    My kids know that they are not allowed to say that they hate each other, so they think that hate is a bad word. When my oldest got into school and was reading books aloud he refused to say hate (even in instances like “she hates broccoli”). I had to explain that reading the word out loud was not the same as saying it in anger to your brother. πŸ™‚

    In my house we weren’t allowed to say even minor swear words, and we were all so embarrassed by passing gas that we used no word for it (we either said excuse me or blamed it on the dog – it’s pretty funny to think about now). The silly thing is that my parents were so sensitive about any swear words but had no problem with the word butt.

    One of the first major faux pas I committed at my husband’s family’s house (we were in college then and he was my boyfriend) was saying something about my butt. The room went silent and I could tell that the family was shocked that I would utter such a harsh word. Then it was explained to me that the appropriate term was “heinie.” I’m sorry, but to this day the word “heinie” makes me giggle like a six year old. I compromised and used “bottom.”

    I just looked up the spelling of “heinie” and was surprised to find that it was first used as slang to refer to the Germans in World War I, and then used as slang to refer to your bottom. That wasn’t very nice of us Americans, was it?

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    trish Reply:

    “Heinie” used to refer to Germans?? Oh, that makes me giggle. Not because I think it’s nice, but because of how the word has become so integrated that most people probably don’t know the origin.

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  17. Jenny

    I curse like a sailor – though for some reason it always surprises people who don’t know me well. I believe I made it through fifth grade without every saying a bad word, and then in sixth grade I suddenly had this revelation that I could curse at school and my parents WOULD NEVER KNOW. And of course spending a year in England, with its plethora of colorful and varied obscenities, didn’t do wonders for cleaning up my conversation.

    As for the “stupid” thing – I really don’t think it’s a bad word. It’s like any insult, it’s all about the context. I agree with Scribbit that it’s more important to teach your child to be kind, than to unilaterally outlaw any one insult. There are always more insults.

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  18. Indigo

    I’m absolutely no help on this agenda. I was raised super religious and to this day curse like a sailor. For me it was more an act of rebellion.

    Having said that…My daughter grew up hearing me curse. I could shut if off during school events, teacher conferences, family gatherings etc., but at home that was my domain to let the my hair down.

    I can say my daughter never cursed nor approved. So…I’m guessing it depends on the kid. However said child has grown up and I never heard her curse until she was married to a soldier. Then again marriage makes a few of us want to curse don’t it? (Hugs)Indigo

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  19. Melissa - Shhh I'm Reading

    I grew up not swearing around my parents and still have a hard time doing it today. My brothers on the other hand have absolutely no problem swearing in front of mom. I think I have maybe heard my dad say 5 swear words in my life…Mom swears some, but not a lot.

    We also weren’t allowed to say fart around dad. I don’t know why he was opposed to the word, but he always called them boomers, and expected us to do the same.

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    trish Reply:

    *snort* “Boomers”?

    I still won’t curse around my family…just doesn’t seem respectful.

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  20. Dawn - She Is Too Fond Of Books

    Language restriction is a slippery slope, isn’t it? We try to model for our kids : people aren’t stupid, they don’t understand; we don’t hate, we really dislike. I’d rather see words like “hate” and “stupid” directed toward things, not people, but I’d rather my kids found better (more fine-tuned for the circumstances) words.

    Having said all that, I’ll tell you that, with 4 kids ages 4 to going-to-be-a-teenager-next-week, we’re are much looser with our guidelines now. It wasn’t intentional; it just happened (the same way my younger kids get certain privileges at an earlier age than their sibs did)

    You do the best you can!

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  21. Kimmy

    I don’t typically swear, but I do have a fondness for British swear words;-)

    I don’t have kids either, so no help there, but I do think as far as swearing is concerned, it’s all in the context of how you use a word that makes it inappropriate language. Though, some words just sound vulgar, no matter how you use them.

    Also, I laughed out loud when I read β€œExcuse me. I committed a faux pas.”

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  22. Jackie (Farm Lane Books)

    I’m very intrigued by these mentions of British swear words – I wasn’t aware there was a difference!

    Please could someone enlighten me?!

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    Kimmy Reply:

    Sure thing!

    Some examples of British swear words are:
    Bollocks, bloody, bugger, wanker, arse, daft

    I have it on good authority that a few of these words are considered more vulgar than the “F” word in England.

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    Kimmy Reply:

    Wait a minute…you live in England?

    Am I somehow mistaken about the difference between British swear words and American?

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    Jackie (Farm Lane Books) Reply:

    That is so funny – yes I live in England, but we hear American English so much that we often don’t know which words are considered “English” until an American doesn’t understand what we’re saying.

    I can assure you that none of those are as offensive as the “f” word and “daft” isn’t offensive at all.

    I guess Bollocks and Wanker are the most offensive, but I wouldn’t like my kids saying any of them apart from daft!

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    Kimmy Reply:

    Thanks for the info!

    I had to laugh at myself when I saw that you were from England. And, here I thought I was the one with the information;-)

    Glad to hear none are as offensive as the “F” word. Perhaps it’s all in who you talk to. I have an English friend who told me specifically that bloody and bollocks were pretty bad. I have a special fondness for saying “bloody” but I am not fond of the “F” word at all.

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  23. Ruth @ Bookish Ruth

    My mother never let me say “fart” either. To this day, it’s a word I rarely use (and never use around my mom!).

    I rarely cursed until I had a boyfriend who could put a sailor to shame. I picked up a lot of his choice language and had to work very hard to rid myself of the habit. Now I’ll only find myself dropping the f-bomb if something really scares me.

    I’ve always been very sensitive about the word “bastard” because my parents weren’t married when they had me. I hate hearing it used in conversation because it always reminds me of something that, although I had no control over it, I’ve always been a bit ashamed of. This is also why I hated The Scarlet Letter when I read it with my senior year Lit class. I went to a Christian school and a lot of the discussion topics hit WAY too close to home.

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  24. Jessica

    I LOVE swearing. It’s probably one of my favorite things to do. There’s definitely a time and a place, though – my dental hygienist actually dropped the F Bomb today during my cleaning.

    My parents both swear notoriously and nefariously. My dad calls my mom “Miss F—mouth” because she swears so much. It was never a big deal in my family, along with nudity and frank discussions of bodily functions. Yet, I hate potty humor and I dress modestly.

    We were definitely cautioned against ever using any kind of racial ephithets. The other taboos word in our house were ‘hate’ and ‘never.’ Strange, huh?

    I am really careful about not swearing around kids, or discussing “adult topics.” I actually changed a joke the other day from “walks into a bar” to “walks into Starbucks” for a child audience. There’s something really sad about precocious kids who swear and understand adult humor. My family’s philosophy was to make sure we were exposed to everything as early as possible, because “knowledge is power,” but I don’t think I would recommend that strategy.

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  25. Michelle

    That is so funny! I hate when I hear people telling other people to Shut-Up. I think that is such a disrespectful and tasteless thing to say. I am in no way shape of form a prude, and trust me I have said my fair share of swears, but for the most part, I really don’t talk dirty. Now, growing up *fart* was also a naughty word in my family. Now I just think it is funny when I hear that word….

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  26. Becky

    I swear pretty regularly. I also have kids pretty regularly. And I swear in front of them. I personally think that people make too big a deal about swearing and using “bad words.” I tend to agree with your friends post. People really are starting to get waayy bent out of shape over words that kids use.

    And some things really just ARE stupid.

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  27. Literate Housewife

    Call me Sailor! LOL! I do curse, but mainly only as a joke unless I’m in my car. I don’t get bothered when others curse, so long as it’s not a volatile situation. The use of a cuss during an argument ramps that argument up as far as I’m concerned. I have a pretty decent “cuss gate.” I don’t use cuss words around my children (mostly), elders, or people I don’t know well or know that they don’t like cussing.

    Stupid is a daycare issue and I try to tell my kids that you can use it so long as you’re not saying it about a person. That is a difficult concept, though. One thing I get “in trouble” with other parents about is the word butt. I use it. I don’t have a problem using it. I don’t see the distinction between bottom or tush and butt. That kind of gets into the fart category. My mom does not like the word fart and I find that I don’t like to say it myself. My mother’s preference was “pass gas.” That’s even funnier than fart. Toot or poot is what I use, but is there really an “acceptable” word for that? If we could avoid them altogether, we would, right? LOL!

    Great post, Trish! A lot of fun!

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  28. Lori L

    Since my kids are now young adults we are much looser with our language restrictions, although hard core swearing (f-word, s-word) isn’t encouraged. We never had a problem with “fart”. “Crap” slips out of lips now, which never would have when the kids were younger. My daughter let loose a “hell” the other day when angry.

    Language is slippery. I can rarely say something “sucks” even though that seems to be acceptable now. I was also raised to not swear and vividly remember chewing on a bar of soap for calling my sister “queer” in the early 70’s. I also went through a period when I swore like crazy, in rebellion to the strict no swearing policy.

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  29. Matthew

    The best is a story of a friend of ours who has a 3-year-old. She was having one of those days where nothing goes right. She was late for work, and she had to drop off her daughter at preschool, and trying to get out of her drive way, she backed into the mailbox. She let a swear word fly, and she didn’t even realize what she had done until she heard a little voice from the back seat say, “Mommy, why you say buck?”

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  30. Jen - Devourer of Books

    I remember when I was little, my mom’s ‘swear’ phrase of choice was “God Bless America!” said in a frustrated voice. Man did I ever get in trouble for repeating that, and I had a really hard time understanding why, because it really didn’t (doesn’t) seem like it should be bad.

    As far as what I’ll do with my kids… My husband and I are going to do our best not to expose our little one to any foul language, but also not make a big deal of it if we slip up (so the words don’t seem exciting). I really like what I Heart Monster was saying about bad words vs. not nicehurtful words. I think that’s an important distinction and a good place to be reinforcing the golden rule.

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  31. Dreamybee

    I agree that teaching a child why something is wrong or inappropriate is often more effective than just banning the behavior. As many have pointed out, banning it often makes it a challenge, a goal to be obtained. I know that, even as an adult, I am much more likely to follow the rules if I know there is a good reason behind them, not just because there is a sign that says so.

    Keep in mind that no matter how many words you don’t expose your kids to at home, once they reach a certain age, they are going to hear them anyway. I don’t know how many times I have been shocked by the language being used in the mall, on the bus, at the store, in front of children, next to grandmothers, in line behind mothers. I don’t curse a lot, but I certainly make a point of trying not to in public because I don’t know what others around me will find offensive, and there’s really no need for it. I feel like I am in the minority though as society, in general, seems to be largely unconcerned with what anybody around them thinks. The attitude seems to be, “If you don’t want to hear it, then you shouldn’t listen to what I’m saying.” I don’t know how you get around that other than talking to your kids about what is appropriate, when it is appropriate, and why (or why not) it might be appropriate.

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  32. sarah pekkanen

    How funny — I was interviewed by NPR a while ago on this very subject. Here’s the link if you’re interested: http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=89127830

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  33. Jeanne

    I read a Steven Pinker article a while back on how the scatalogical/sexual is replacing the profane as “dirty” words. As a literalist and a linguist, I used to point out the literal meaning of the word if my kid used it, and inquire politely if that was what the kid really meant. Mostly, though, I’ve always echoed my college professor parents, who would ask if I couldn’t express myself any better if I used a “bad” word. My kids (13 and 15) come home from school saying “crap,” but that’s about the extent of it. And if I’m ever really furious, I have some words handy that everyone knows I say very rarely–so they produce more shock and awe.

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  34. natalie @ book, line, and sinker

    okay, could you please stop being my cosmic twin sister? are our parents related??? fart was an absolute NO-NO at our house–to this very day. lol. i do use some profanity, but like your friend, can flip it on and off–i need that talent since i work in a school. just one of the many services i offer. lol.

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  35. ammo

    — IF used in the correct form . It is how we use it that matters – –
    I have never heard it said any better then the way my mother told me – “Foul language is just a persons way of showing that they can not express their option in a intelligent matter”-

    This worked on me and all of my kids too!

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  36. Susan @ Reading Upside Down

    I have asked my children not to use the word stupid. When they were younger it was a blanket “not a good word” rule. Now that they are old enough to understand, they have been told it is not a word that I want them using to describe a person.

    There are several words and attitudes that I want my children to understand are wrong, so I explain to them why I don’t want them to say or do certain things. I think just saying “That is a bad word” and leaving the explanation at that helps no-one. The kids have a sense of the forbidden about the word that makes it more appealing and it doesn’t help differentiate between words that are always inappropriate (racial slurs etc) and words that are inappropriate in certain circumstances or uses.

    Now that my children are getting older, when they use a word that I don’t particularly like/appreciate, my response tends to be “surely you can find a better word to use than that?” or “Would you appreciate someone saying that about or to you?”. I am more interested in targeting the attitude than the actual words. If they can develop good character and a healthy attitude, I don’t think that they will be likely to use words in an inappropriate way.

    My kids are still young, so the jury is still out on the longterm success of this strategy. I’ll let you know how it has worked in another 10 years or so. πŸ™‚

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  37. Jennygirl

    I was never allowed to curse in front of my parents and I still don’t, for the most part. I’m in my mid-30s, and the occasional curse word does slip out now and again when I’m with mom, but ususally becasue I’m driving and someone cuts me off.

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  38. Amy (Park-Avenue Princess)

    Um…Trish…I just wanted to make sure that *I* wasn’t the friend you were commenting about that could turn her curse words on and off…*ahem* because I would never – ever – ever be able to do that! (*LMFAOOOO*) Great to SEE YOU!! XOXO

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  39. Jeane

    I grew up in a very religious home where not only all swear words were considered bad, but also “shut up” and “butt” etc. I did get my mouth washed out with soap- it’s horrible once as a kid, and to this day, although I’m much more relaxed about it now, I still don’t swear hardly at all. (I’ll say sh- and h- but not much else). My husb can be pretty mouthy, though, and I have to ask him to cut out the curse words, just so my four year old won’t stop repeating them. The one that really makes me uncomfy is f-.

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