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Would You Rather Wednesday

Here’s something for you to chew on:

Would you rather have to tell the truth to anytime anyone asked you a question, or have the truth told to you anytime you asked anyone a question?

What makes this such a conundrum is that you could do a lot of good by telling people the truth! “Why yes, your butt DOES look big in those jeans.” “These carrots are okay, but frankly I think you should try cooking them less so they’re more like carrots and less like baby food.” I mean really. We’re not honest enough in our society because we don’t want to hurt anyone’s feeeelings. But on the other hand, you could do a lot of damage being too truthful.

So me? I’m going to vote for having the truth told to me anytime I asked anyone a question, because I wouldn’t want to be responsible for the damage that could be caused by being too honest. Maybe that’s me being too careful of people’s feelings, but I think I’d rather be hurt than do the hurting. I know I could get over the hurt.

However, I realize that telling the truth doesn’t always hurt someone, and like I said, I don’t think we’re honest enough in this society. But, well, surprise, surprise, I do have a little piece of my heart that bleeds. Sometimes.

Would you rather have to tell the truth to anytime anyone asked you a question, or have the truth told to you anytime you asked anyone a question?

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15 Responses to “Would You Rather Wednesday”

  1. I Heart Monster

    I’d rather have the truth told to me when I ask a question.

    Love the fun poll widget thingie! :o)


  2. Sandy

    I’m with you, I’d rather have to deal with my own hurt feelings than be responsible for someone else being hurt. Hurting someone is up there with the deadly sins in my book!


  3. Amy

    Wow, it seems none of us like the thought of having to tell the truth all the time!


  4. Jenn's Bookshelves

    There was no option to vote for both! 🙂 I’m all about honesty. If someone asks me a question, I give them an honest answer. If it’s one that might be hurtful, I do it in a way to decrease the amount of pain that person might feel. On the other side of the coin, I ask a question because I want an honest answer, not a sugar-coated one.


    trish Reply:

    That’s because you have to CHOOSE, Jenn! 🙂 I do agree with you though, that giving an honest answer is important, and I WANT an honest answer when I ask a question. The question I posed was almost, Would you rather hear everyone’s real, unfiltered thoughts, or have everyone hear all of your real, unfiltered thoughts? Hmm…maybe to take this thing one step further, that will be the question for next week!


  5. Rebecca @ The Book Lady's Blog

    I’m with Jenn on wishing there were an option for both. It will come as no to surprise to you that I tend to be rather blunt, and, at least with the people I know and love, I tell the truth even when it hurts. (Granted, I think there are ways to soften the truth and that it’s important to state things nicely, but still. Honesty isn’t always easy, but I like it.)

    But forced to choose, I’d also go with having the truth told to me because I really believe it makes life better. I’m glad I married a man who will tell me if my outfit looks crazy or that the new dish I tried was definitely NOT worth repeating or whatever. Everyone needs at least one person who will be relentlessly honest. I’m glad to have that, and I’d be happy to be it.


    trish Reply:

    Somehow I’ve become known as being rather blunt too. I don’t think I mean to…I’m just a bad liar. LOL. I try to be tactful, of course. 🙂

    I love that I can count on my husband to tell me the truth, too! His honesty about certain situations has helped me see how my actions can be perceived by somone else, and I like to think that’s helped make me a better person.


  6. Jen - Devourer of Books

    I guess I could always stop asking questions…


    trish Reply:

    Jen, I was thinking the same thing! Sometimes I really do want the truth, but those times that I don’t, I’d just learn to keep my mouth shut. 😀


  7. Aunt Becky

    Definitely have to hear the truth. Basically, Daver won’t lie to me, so I’m SORTA there anyway. Then I won’t ask any stupid ass questions.


  8. zibilee

    I agree with your choice Trish. I would hate to have to tell the truth all the time because it could create some dicey emotional situations. I’d rather have the truth told to me, even if it might be unpleasant at times!


  9. Lisa

    There are ways to give an honest answer without hurting someone so I guess I’d go with me having to give an honest answer. But I would expect the same treatment and know I wouldn’t always get it so I wouldn’t want to always hear the honest answer. Now the unfiltered answer would be a totally different option–I would hate to hurt someone.


  10. heidenkind

    I think having people HAVE to tell you the truth would be really useful. Like when a guy says, “I’ll call you”? He would totally not be able to say that! And just think if you were a parent how great this would be…


  11. Frankie

    Isn’t there always a constructive way to tell the true? Jessica(Simpson) don’t tuck your shirt! tell me the truth but be gentle


  12. Serena (Savvy Verse & Wit)

    I think I’m in the minority on this one!


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